As children across Essex head back to school this September, many parents and carers are adjusting to new routines, busy schedules and the emotional challenges that come with family life. For the members of NEDS (Neurodivergent and Disabled Children’s Dads Support Group), making time to connect, get active and support one another has become an important part of maintaining their mental wellbeing.
Formed in 2019 by a group of dads who felt there wasn’t a safe space to meet and talk openly, NEDS has since grown to around 180 members and hosts regular meet-ups for fathers of children with Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND).
“Being a parent of a SEN child is a unique challenge, as well intended as friends and family might be, you often feel isolated because only those that go through similar issues truly understand how limited our lives can be, it gives us a safe space to share our stories in a setting where most people have go through a similar issue or at the very least understand where your struggles are coming from.”
This summer, that sense of community helped carry the group to the summit of Cader Idris in Wales, raising money for a special school attended by their children. The challenge held particular significance after last year’s attempt was cut short by severe weather conditions.
“Every year we take on a new challenge, often a mountain or a long walk, for this year it was an easy decision as we actually failed the challenge last year, the weather conditions were horrible and we only managed to get to the halfway point before turning back to not risk being stuck in the mountain after dark and possible injuries.”
Returning to complete the climb wasn’t just about reaching the summit. It was an opportunity for the group to come together, challenge themselves and support one another through difficult conditions.
“Once you reach the cloud level, the temperature drops quite quickly and visibility becomes extremely reduced alongside stronger winds. At that point, you rely on the people around you to keep your spirits high.”
The Find Your Active: Move for Your Mind campaign encourages people across Essex to discover how movement can support mental wellbeing. While not everyone will take on a mountain climb, the experience of the NEDS dads shows how being active can help people build confidence, strengthen friendships and feel connected to a supportive community. Whether it’s walking with friends, joining a local group, taking part in a community activity or simply getting outdoors, finding your active can have a positive impact on both physical and mental wellbeing. For the dads of NEDS, Cader Idris was more than a fundraising challenge. It was a chance to spend time together, support each other and return home with a renewed sense of achievement. Their advice to other dads is simple:
“A problem shared is a problem halved. There is nothing to lose in joining a support group such as ours, and you’ll make a few friends along the way.”
With plans already underway for another fundraising challenge next year, the group hopes to continue inspiring others to get active, connect with their community and discover the positive impact movement can have on mental wellbeing.
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To learn more about NEDS, their support network, podcast and community activities you can read more here. To find out more about the Find Your Active: Move for Your Mind campaign visit our webpage here!
